By the time couples come to see me, each one has a laundry list of things that they wish their partner would stop doing. That can snowball and ultimately result in one or both people feeling hopeless that they can reclaim the love that once prevailed. Unhappiness and ugly remarks have spread from being between the two partners, to taking place around others, such as family and friends.
Allow one another to grieve a loss.
As disillusionment continues, it slips further down the deterioration process as the unhappy partner decides that their problems are persistent and serious, and could possibly lead to divorce, though the idea of divorce is quickly dismissed due to a multitude of reasons, such as children; religious, social, moral beliefs; finances, fear of failure or disappointment; and many more considerations.
Nadia Persun obtained her degree at the University of Chicago. To understand the marriage crisis process we begin with the relationship starting out at its highest point, then going through the deterioration process.
Keep in mind that this could just be a rough patch. A spiritual and emotional blindness that sets in that keeps you from seeing beyond the problems. A happy couple who married in would likely stay married, even without the reinforcement of economic disparity between men and women.
Another round with the same dynamics. When the truth of the unhappiness comes out, the crisis begins. Psych Central. These two talks take place one or two days apart from each other and spouses refrain from continuing to talk further about the issue.